I love it. I’ve always been a fairly independent person, but a couple years ago when the Nood and I decided to part ways after living together for nearly a decade, I didn’t know what to expect. It was like getting a divorce (we actually threw ourselves a “we’re getting a divorce” party) and embarking on a new and exciting journey all at once.
The author of this article lays it out perfectly – while I would miss late night chats, trips to Costco, and so much more – I could now pick the paint on the walls, make a a mess or not, leave my clothes on the floor in the bathroom, and watch Gossip Girl with no judgement. You are correct – this is not the first time I’ve mentioned Gossip Girl on this blog – it is my escape, and I’ll own it. So in the spirit of growing up, living alone and making choices for one, I thought I’d steal and post this list of the 30 things every woman should know and do before turning 30. I still have over a year until D-Day and I’m truly not concerned with growing older, but the list is a nice reminder of all the wonderful indicators of growing up, just a little bit.
By 30, you should have …
1. One old boyfriend you can imagine going back to and one who reminds you of how far you’ve come.
2. A decent piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in your family.
3. Something perfect to wear if the employer or man of your dreams wants to see you in an hour.
4. A purse, a suitcase, and an umbrella you’re not ashamed to be seen carrying.
5. A youth you’re content to move beyond.
6. A past juicy enough that you’re looking forward to retelling it in your old age.
7. The realization that you are actually going to have an old age — and some money set aside to help fund it.
8. An email address, a voice mailbox, and a bank account — all of which nobody has access to but you.
9. A résumé that is not even the slightest bit padded.
10. One friend who always makes you laugh and one who lets you cry.
11. A set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra.
12. Something ridiculously expensive that you bought for yourself, just because you deserve it.
13. The belief that you deserve it.
14. A skin-care regimen, an exercise routine, and a plan for dealing with those few other facets of life that don’t get better after 30.
15. A solid start on a satisfying career, a satisfying relationship, and all those other facets of life that do get better.
By 30, you should know …
1. How to fall in love without losing yourself.
2. How you feel about having kids.
3. How to quit a job, break up with a man, and confront a friend without ruining the friendship.
4. When to try harder and when to walk away.
5. How to kiss in a way that communicates perfectly what you would and wouldn’t like to happen next.
6. The names of the secretary of state, your great-grandmothers, and the best tailor in town.
7. How to live alone, even if you don’t like to.
8. Where to go — be it your best friend’s kitchen table or a yoga mat — when your soul needs soothing.
9. That you can’t change the length of your legs, the width of your hips, or the nature of your parents.
10. That your childhood may not have been perfect, but it’s over.
11. What you would and wouldn’t do for money or love.
12. That nobody gets away with smoking, drinking, doing drugs, or not flossing for very long.
13. Who you can trust, who you can’t, and why you shouldn’t take it personally.
14. Not to apologize for something that isn’t your fault.
15. Why they say life begins at 30